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Mission accomplished

Alhamdulillah…

Akhinya jadi Widya Asriana, S.Psi

terimakasih atas semua dukungan dan doanya…

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Note to self: Girls don’t even think to try to get your boyfriend jealous

Men and woman often differ in their responses to jealousy. Woman said they would react to the rival’s interference by seeking to improve the relationship; they intended to put on a show of indifference but compete with the rival by making themselves more attractive to their partners. In contrast, men said they would strive to protect their egos; they planned to get drunk, confront and threaten the rival, and pursue other women. Whereas woman seemed to focus on preserving the existing relationship, men consider leaving it and salving their wounded pride with conquest of new partners.

On thing that makes them worrisome is that woman are much more likely than men to try to get their partners jealous (White, 1980a; Miller, 2007). When they induce jealousy – usually by discussing or exaggerating their attraction to other men, sometimes by flirting with or dating them – they typically seek to test the relationship (to see how much he cares) or try to elicit more attention and commitment from their partners (White, 1980a; Miller, 2007). They evidently want their men to respond the way they do when they get jealous, with greater effort to protect and maintain the relationship. The problem, of course, is that’s not the way men typically react. Women who seek to improve their relationships by inducing jealousy in their men may succeed only in driving their partners away.

Reference:

Miller, R., Perlman, D., Brehm, S. (2007). Intimate Relationship 4th Edition. New York: Mc-Graw Hill.

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Welcome 2010

Resolusi 2010:

JADI SARJANA PSIKOLOGI.

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Katarsis malam ini

Menangis itu sehat.

Walaupun sebenarnya saya bingung kenapa saya sampai menangis ‘sesegukan’ begini.

udah lama juga gak nangis kaya gini.

kenapa? kenapa? kenapa?

ya, mungkin saya sedang sedih.

ya, mungkin saya sedang marah.

ya, mungkin saya sedang panik.

ya, mungkin saya sedang muak.

ya, mungkin saya sedang cognitive overload.

ya, mungkin saya sedang kesal.

ya, mungkin saya sedang bosan.

ya, mungkin saya sedang bingung.

dan ya. mungkin saya… ah, ini hanya akumulasi.

ayo wid, menangis saja selagi masih bisa menangis.

keluarin semuanya. biar lega 🙂

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Pengen tantrum, masih pantes gak ya

*A tantrum is an emotional outburst of ill humor or a fit of bad temper wherein the ‘higher’ cognitive functions are unable to stop the emotional expression of the putative ‘lower’ (emotional and physical) functions. It can be categorized by an irrational fit of crying, screaming, defiance, angry ranting and a resistance to every attempt at pacification in which even physical control is lost. From a psychological standpoint, there may be several goals to a tantrum, which may or may not be the “reward(s)” that are consciously desired by the person. To many outsiders, these goals may seem irrational, unreasonable, inappropriate, criminal, unethical, immoral, or the work of some spiritual force(s). To people familiar with or trained to recognize the psychological causes of such behavior, however, there are clear emotional, cognitive behavioural and biochemical correlates to tantrums. (wikipedia.com)

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